gettingthroughocd

Stand your ground

gettingthroughocd — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:07:57 +0000

Sometimes when things seem their hardest you have to learn to stand your ground. That is what I have been getting in a Bible study I have been doing and it has come to me repeatedly this week.
In the bible study, Beth Moore talks about strongholds and ocd is a stronghold in our lives. She said, and I found this to be particularly true in my situation, that when we have a stronghold, we will defend it, protect it and hide behind it. I have found in my struggle that there have been times that I just wanted people to understand what I was going through so much that I would actually defend my condition and the ocd. She went on to say that when we begin to call our strongholds what they are – for ocd it would be fear – that is the first step in getting free. And, when we recognize that God is stronger than anything we face and we make up our mind to get free, nothing can stop us or stand against us because we are fighting with God on our side.
Powerful. We need to make up our minds once and for all to get free, stand our ground and see the deliverance of our God. Nothing can stop you when you do that.
What we don’t often recognize is that we aren’t fighting alone in this. God is here and nothing is impossible for God if you believe. Do you believe? Not just want to believe, but do you actually believe that God can and will set you free?
Then stand your ground and face the fears. I am not just talking to you, but to me too.
Do you know that when you set your mind in God’s direction and begin to believe what He is telling you that you can do anything. Anything is possible for you.
We are all soldiers in the Army of God. We all are if you have accepted Christ as your savior. You have the fight in you because you have the Holy Living God living in you. I know I have written all this before, but I was reminded of all of this this week in my study and it was powerful.
This morning I heard Joyce Meyer describe fear. Fear means to take flight she said. It doesn’t mean you don’t feel the emotion of fear. Fear not means to not take flight. There are still times I want to take flight. I have made so much progress and enjoyed so much healing in so many areas of this fight, but there is the top one – the fear of pills that still causes me problems. There is a trauma associated with the pill fear so it has had a stronger hold on me – stronghold if you will. This week, I have been exposing myself to over the counter pills by not fleeing from them when they are near me at the grocery store aisle and picking check out lines that have aspirin and allergy medication on them to go through the checkout line with.
Well, of course the enemy knows that this is the last fall of the ocd so he sets it up for me to run into two major obstacles this week. One obstacle occurred in a bookstore when a woman whipped out a pill bottle, opened it and took a pill right in front of me. I couldn’t believe it. It has been a long time since that happened. I deal better when I know what the pill was and am better able to move past it, but I couldn’t very well ask her although I contemplated long stories to tell her to try and find out. But, in the end I didn’t ask. My anxiety didn’t skyrocket as in the past, but it was there. I went to lunch after and only washed my hands once as is normal before lunch for me and ate with no problems. I’d like to tell you I was 100 percent perfect, but I did shower when I got home six hours later because I worried how I would feel later in the days to come in my new home if I didn’t. I knew I wasn’t really contaminated, but I did it just as a precaution to ward off thoughts – notice I said thoughts not contamination – that may not even happen in days to come. All that did was reinforce the lie that I had to do something to remain safe from my “thoughts”. So, the next day, I again encountered pills. This time I was paying for sod at a landscape company and a woman opened her drawer to give me change and pulled the cash out right next to her prescription pill bottle. Again, I didn’t know what the pills were. I went to the restroom after and passed at least three that I counted more bottles of pills, all prescription which I haven’t been facing deliberately. Good news is I came home and didn’t shower until I got ready to go to bed. Even went to Bible study without showering after that encounter. So, even though I would have liked to have handled it perfectly, I did make progress and I know if I keep standing my ground on this last issue, it will fall. But, I have to stop taking flight and I have to stand my ground – the ground that the Lord has given me. There are days I feel stronger and more able to do that and there are days I just don’t want to have to deal with it, but I can assure you all that is normal. So, as you can see God has healed me in so many areas, but I have to face the last obstacle with the pills and not knowing in cases what they are or I am not completely free.
I know that will happen because God has given me the courage and the freedom in so many other areas of the ocd fight this last couple of years. My husband takes Alleve every night and I don’t even ask him to wash his hands after and he gets in bed and touches things all through the house. I have learned I am fine and I know that deep down I am fine if I encounter other pills, but I am not always perfect in dealing with it. I have learned that I am not even fearing contamination any more, I am fearing my own thoughts about it and thoughts can be controlled.
The beauty is God doesn’t expect me to be perfect, but just to keep trying until I am completely and utterly free.
May God continue to bless you in your fight! Remember no matter what you are facing, you can do it. We can all do it. If we couldn’t, God wouldn’t ask us to not fear.
Getting through ocd.

Touchdown Jesus!

gettingthroughocd — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 19:15:39 +0000

I wanted to share this song with you today. I just heard it and it is a new song by Tim McGraw. For all my friends reading this who aren’t familiar with American football, a touchdown is the biggest score of the game. I want you to think about if God can miraculously heal people of cancer and all the other diseases out there, He can surely completely heal ocd! Here is the song.

Choose happiness over fear!

gettingthroughocd — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 18:59:39 +0000

Whew! I have been so exhausted the last couple of days. Moving and unpacking is not for the faint hearted. Today, I sat down on the computer for the first time in a few days and I wasn’t planning on writing today. But, God had other plans.
I kept seeing devotions on being happy in the moment and getting your joy back. Basically, they were saying that the joy of the Lord is our strength and that we don’t need to wait until something gets better or our circumstances change or everything lines up perfectly to be happy. We need to choose joy and happiness and seek them through God.
That still didn’t fully inspire me to write today because I was mentally tired. Those were the first two devotions I saw in an email. One on happiness and one on joy. I knew God was talking to me and I felt He wanted me to share it with everyone on here, but I thought I don’t know if I feel like writing today. Our feelings can be fickle anyway and I know better than to just give in to a feeling.
But, God knew I needed one more push so in the unlikeliest place, I opened a post and it said we need to seek grace and not trouble because if we seek or look for trouble we are sure to find it.
I then realized that God was telling me and wanting me to tell you guys as well that we are not to put off seeking happiness and His joy. “This is the day the Lord hath made. I will rejoice and be glad in it.”
I know that was for me today and I have to suspect you too or God wouldn’t have kept after me to write today.
Life happens I know. And, with ocd, life can be even more stressful. But, God is saying don’t wait until you have fully arrived to be happy. Be happy in the moments and blessings that I give you today. Let me bless you.
There are times that we can focus on the problem so long that all we can see is the problem. God doesn’t want us to focus on the problem. He wants us to focus on how big our God is and that His grace will see us all the way through whatever we may face today or tomorrow. God has been continually reminding me that He is with me and He wants to help me through the last remnants of fears I have battled. He has already helped me conquer through so many and He wants the last little ones to fall and for me not to fear anything harming me. He wants the same for you and whatever you are fearing. He wants us to be happy, but we have to choose happy over fear.
So, the next time you are out and about and you see that penny on the ground for those of you in the United States – Note that it is stamped with “In God we Trust” and know that is a reminder that God is with you. For those of you outside of the United States, anytime you see the smallest coin on the street or out and about, know that God is also reminding you of the American penny saying “In God we Trust” and that it is meant to let you know that God is with you and you can Trust Him to see you through! I love you guys and I pray for you! Let us all do our best to rejoice and be happy in God today!
Getting through ocd.

Enter into your promised land…

gettingthroughocd — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 14:41:40 +0000

It’s going to be a bright shiny day today! Wake up and think I am so looking forward to what God is going to show me today. I know things can get hard, believe me.
I have been moving and let’s face it stress good or bad can cause symptoms to flare at times. But, as long as you are making progress, even small progress, every day you are still moving in the right direction.
I want to share something with you that I did right before we began moving. For some reason, after all this happened to me I stopped eating peanuts and strawberries and shrimp. Basically, when this happened to me I had just eaten shrimp so my mind began telling me I had some type of allergic reaction. I didn’t, but I added other common food allergies into the mix of things that I stopped eating even though I had never had allergies to them.
So, my husband and others kept coming by me with peanuts in the last few weeks and I realized that I was reacting out of fear every time they walked by me after eating peanuts. They couldn’t tell, but I was shrinking back. I got mad and decided I am tired of this so I got up and ate peanut butter crackers and sat down and decided what happened happened. Nothing happened and I am happy to tell you that I am eating peanut butter crackers regularly.
Now, there are some other things I still need to tackle, but I wanted to let you know that sometimes you just have to make up your mind you are going to do it anyway despite the fear you may face and despite what you think might happen.
Just know that God is in control of your life. I just heard a pastor say that the only way to get over your problems is to go through them and when you go through them you enter into the promised land of milk and honey.
Go through your problems with ocd and enter into the promised land. Your promised land awaits. He will build you houses you did not build and vineyards that you did not plant. But, don’t forget once you are free to never forget who made you free! God and God alone sets you free, but you have to cooperate. Go straight through the problem. Just remember the greater your problems, the greater your blessings. So, look at it this way you are on the way to huge blessings:)!
Getting through ocd.

Redemption from the ashes

gettingthroughocd — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 22:41:37 +0000

Betrayal. It is a word that immediately brings up images. If we have ever been betrayed, we can relate to it. If we haven’t had a major betrayal yet, we know of the ultimate betrayal. Judas betrayed Jesus with a kiss. But, even that was part of the plan. What if all of our betrayals were part of the ultimate plan for our good? I can tell you they are.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that God brings the betrayal. He most definitely does not. The betrayal comes at the hands of Satan himself. We know this because the Bible tells us that Satan entered Judas just before Judas betrayed the Lord. But, look at how it ended. Our savior is risen and He broke the hold of death.
Now, I say all of this because this morning I was wondering why I was still feeling weird around certain objects in my old house. I pondered that this morning, and I felt the word betrayal coming to mind.
It was true. The two chairs reminded me of a betrayal where someone I thought should protect me instead led me into a very uncomfortable situation at work. It is where I fell apart and where I thought I was truly afraid of the contaminated object that was brought into the room. But, it wasn’t ultimately about that. It was about the betrayal. Someone I trusted to protect me did not. Ocd is never really about a contaminant. It always has a deeper root with a deeper fear.
I followed that thought into betrayal and the theme of it had been running for a while. I thought about the betrayal I felt when my husband left during the height of the ocd. And, then I thought about the prescription medication that triggered all of this off to begin with that I took from a doctor who I trusted to help me not harm me. I thought about the deeper betrayals coming from earlier in life where someone I trusted to protect me did not. But, God is trying to resurrect me from the ashes that once was my life. And, He wants to do the same for you.
God asks us to trust Him and when we do great things begin to happen. We are blessed so we can bless others and relationships that looked doomed are redeemed.
So, what I’m telling you when I looked at those objects that I had associated with a memory – those memories for me delved into betrayal leading all the way back to where the fear first began. For you, the fear may be linked to some other fear or hurt that you suffered somewhere in your life. Mine comes from worrying that harm is going to come to me. Certainly I have evidence that there has been harm done, but the greater evidence is that God can redeem it all and turn it around for my good and for your good.
These are just thoughts I had today and I wanted to share them here. I want to tell you that God has blessed my husband and I so much with our new home. It truly is beautiful. He is also restoring and has been restoring broken relationships in my life. I pray that you will continue on in your fight and give God the opportunity to heal you and redeem your life from the ashes.
Getting through ocd.

Stand on the promises of God.

gettingthroughocd — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:07:58 +0000

Well, things are moving along fast on our new home. We should be moving in within three weeks. There has been a lot of change in my life for sure! No job, living with my parents out of a suitcase and all of my stuff still not here – and that’s just to name a few.
I still see progress all the time, but I see little flares too because of the stress of all the change.
One thing we don’t generally like is change – because it takes away what we feel is in our control. I find myself in an environment where I am not in control of anything. I have to eat when they eat and follow what they want to do and it’s hard. I am out of any basic routine and I long for the day when I am in my own home. It’s easier to push through symptoms too in general when you realize you don’t have control of a situation and you just give up trying to have it.
We have gotten very involved in our local church and I love that because I missed being in bible studies and Sunday school classes where we are studying the word every week. I tend to function on a much higher level when I am in the word and studying God’s word.
The inside of our house is supposed to be almost completed this week. It’s amazing to watch your house change every day and see things growing and coming together. I wonder if that’s what God feels like when He watches us grow and change and come together as we are supposed to do.
It’s exciting to see and each day I run over to see what has happened and gotten better today. That’s probably how God sees us too. He waits for us to wake up and sees all the progress we make in a day and is excited for us! Even on the days when only a small progress is made is a good day because it is one step closer to the finished project.
So, celebrate your victories with God. He sure wants to get excited with you. Sometimes the road seems long and winding and it seems that you won’t reach your destination for weeks or months, but each day is progress and you will arrive at your destination intact and whole.
Do all you can to try and stay in God’s word every day of your life. If that means doing a bible study at your church, then do a Bible study at your church. If you don’t have a church home or a Bible study to do, then go online and join one of Beth Moore’s or another teacher that you love who has sound biblical teachings.
I am planning on writing scripture on the floors of our home before they put our flooring down so it will be underneath the flooring. This is something my church in Atlanta did when they were remodeling and I thought it was wonderful. The builders may wonder about us when we start writing on the concrete, but it will remind me every day that I am standing on the promises of God throughout my home and it will remind me that God built my house! I hope you are all having a great day and pushing on through in the fight against fear – which is all ocd is – just plain old fear.
Getting through ocd.

Keep up the fight!

gettingthroughocd — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 15:33:41 +0000

It has been cold here for the last couple of days and I feel like I’m getting a cold. I’m wishing for warmer weather. Every day is an adventure. I am out of my ordinary comfort zone and no longer working as I wait for the house to be finished. The other day I read a quote and I can’t remember the exact wording, but here is a paraphrase. When you stand up and face your greatest fear, all fear leaves. It is true, but it is not easy. Last night I faced a fear. I didn’t feel the tremendous anxiety, but my body did start reacting with a hot flash so I stepped away and acknowledged that my body was telling me I had had enough for the moment. It’s ok to do that as long as you know you will go back and face it again and take it a step further the next time until it no longer has a hold on you.
I pray you all had a wonderful Christmas and New Year, but if it wasn’t all that you had hoped, I pray that you have many blessings in the new year. We all have troubles and we will never escape those totally in this life, but we don’t have to live with the hold of ocd on top of life’s other burdens. It is something we can conquer and battle back with God’s help. Don’t stop in your fight. Maybe you feel you have had a slight setback or maybe you have seen great strides, but either way you will come out of this a winner if you just don’t give up.
Here’s to many blessings for all of us this year. I hope to write again soon!
Getting through ocd.

Stop bowing to the ocd enemy

gettingthroughocd — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 15:37:07 +0000

I chose this picture today to make a point that God showed me this morning. There is an area in my bedroom where I thought some contamination entered a long time ago. Mostly, I’ve gotten past all that, but today it was bothering me a little probably because my stress is elevated from the last two days at work and moving.
Anyway, that’s not the story. As I looked at it, I had an image in my head of a martial arts match where they bow slightly to each other before the match. That small image struck me and I felt God say in my heart, “that is what you are doing.” Odd, I thought what do you mean? “Every time you let the ocd dictate what you do or don’t do, you are bowing down to it.” Wow! Not just bending my knee to it, but bowing down to it and making it my god.
Whew! Not the life I want to live for sure. I wanted to leave you guys with those thoughts as I wind down my career here in Atlanta and begin my new adventure in south Georgia, in the country. I may not write for a few weeks because we are focusing on packing and splitting time between the two places until our house is finished there and my computer access will be limited. There is still lots to do and pick with the new house as they finish construction. It is an exciting time, but I’ve had anxiety about it too. I know I need to take extra care of myself right now because stress always exacerbates any ocd symptoms still left lingering.
I love you guys and I know your struggles. I hope you will take the next few weeks and work really hard on beating back your ocd. God is with you and will help you! I may write from time to time during this period, but if I don’t, please come back and read old posts until I’m back writing regularly.
Every one of you are awesome and God loves you so much! Take His hand and stop bowing to the ocd. It no longer controls you!
Getting through ocd.

God redeems it all

gettingthroughocd — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 14:32:04 +0000

‘Who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion”
(Psalm 103:4, NIV)
The first time I ever posted on here about feeling that I had been caught in the perfect storm was about a year ago. Recently, I’ve also posted about it because I’ve heard Beth Moore teaching on it and it reminded me of the last year and a half.
I was driving to one of my last counseling appointments on Tuesday when I began to think back over the past year and a half. I was in a place so devastating I wondered if I would survive. And, then I realized something. I wouldn’t change it. If I hadn’t gone through what I’ve been through, I wouldn’t be as strong as I am today. I wouldn’t have had the strength to leave a career making a good living and chart off into unchartered territories. I wouldn’t see the doors that God has been opening to make a better life for us. I wouldn’t have ever started this blog to try and help others. I wouldn’t be planning to write a book about my experience. Even when my husband left me and filed for divorce, I was strengthened and upheld by God Himself.
God brought my husband back home. He opened doors to move from a life that was killing us stress wise and into a new life where He has created “streams in the wasteland.”
I heard Beth again this morning teaching on this subject and it brought everything full circle. She said sometimes God allows the perfect storm to break to pieces the enemy’s hold on us.
Amen and amen.
Getting through ocd.

Untie your boat! Set sail!

gettingthroughocd — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 15:26:36 +0000

I saw this quote on Facebook today and I immediately thought of this picture and knew I had to write today!
Here is what I saw, “fear won’t get you where you want to go. It’s not easy to head off into uncharted waters, but every journey starts with a first step. Fear will keep you from taking that first step, from untying the boat from the dock. Fear will also keep you from making new discoveries. Don’t let fear keep you tied up, set sail and see what God has planned for you.”
We are untying our boat from the dock for sure. We have quit our jobs, my husband took a new job and we are moving four hours south to the country away from the city. It is a huge step for me and I have had some anxiety about it – and some panic as the days get closer to my last day at work. See, I’ve never not worked and been able to take care of myself on my own since I graduated college more than 20 years ago. I am taking a six month sabbatical and writing a book about what I’ve been through with this fear, anxiety and ocd mess and how God has delivered me through so much! God has led me to do this and He is opening the door, but I find myself as the date of departure draws closer wanting to send my resume out and wanting to have a job – even just part-time. But, God keeps sending me reminders that He is going to take care of me and that I am not to get a job until I’ve accomplished what He has asked me to do. It is scary let me tell you.
But, there are so many exciting things too. We are building a new house and construction has started. We are on a beautiful stretch of land that I have always wanted to build on and we are close to family members again. So we are untying the boat from the dock and sailing into new discoveries. Is it scary? Yes. Do I feel the fear sometimes? Yes. But, I’m also excited to see what God is going to do and what doors He is going to open. Don’t be too scared to untie your boat from the dock on what God is leading you to do. It will be worth it. Just take a step of faith. I would rather be shaking and quaking and following God’s will than content and mundane and miss God’s best.
Step out in faith and untie your boat. Great discoveries await!
Getting through ocd.